Sunday, March 26, 2017

If I leave my firm, can I take my clients with me?



After working for a mental health clinic for more than a decade, a mental health therapist (let's call her "Lil") has decided to accept an offer from a clinic a few towns away. She enjoyed her work, her colleagues, and her clients, but the new opportunity gave her a chance to focus more on the type of work she enjoyed the most.

Lil established and maintained a good relationship with her current employer over the years, so she is leaving on good terms. Her supervisor and colleagues are sad to see her go, but they've been supportive about her decision. She planned to give them at least a month's notice so she could transition her current clients to new therapists at the clinic.

As Lil began to tell her clients that she would be leaving, all were sad to hear the news, but she reassured them that she would leave them in good hands at the clinic. Because she had established strong rapport with her ongoing clients, her reassurance calmed them about the transition.

But a handful of the clients asked her about shifting to see her at her new place of work after she moved there. At first, Lil felt uneasy about encouraging them to leave since she didn't want to do anything to jeopardize the health of the practice she'd be leaving. Nevertheless, many clients persisted in asking if she would consider seeing them at her new clinic after she moved.

"Is it wrong for me to tell clients they can make appointments to come see me at the new clinic?" Lil asks. "Would I somehow be betraying a trust with my soon-to-be former employer?"

If Lil had signed a non-compete agreement with the current clinic, she would likely find taking any existing clients with her to be a problem. Depending on the details of the non-compete agreement, she also might need to consult with her current employer to make sure that nothing about the move itself violates the agreement. I am not an attorney, so I would not be qualified to give Lil advice on whether or how she should do this. My inclination would be that the agreement limits her in what she can do.

But Lil tells me that she was not asked to sign a non-compete agreement with her current clinic. If that's the case, then her concern about doing what's fair to it is well-placed, but it shouldn't limit her from being able to build her practice at the new clinic or to consider accepting appointments from former clients who want to continue to see her.

Lil would be wrong to strongly advise her current clients to abandon the practice she's about to leave. But it should be each client's decision about what therapist he or she wants to work with.

The right thing is to be honest with her employers about her decision to leave, and to let clients know she is leaving as well. If clients ask where Lil is going and what type of work she will be doing, she should tell them. If they decide to follow her to the new practice, and she has not committed otherwise to her current employer, Lil should welcome them and continue to build the relationship she has already established with each of them. 

Jeffrey L. Seglin, author of The Simple Art of Business Etiquette: How to Rise to the Top by Playing Nice, is a lecturer in public policy and director of the communications program at Harvard's Kennedy School. He is also the administrator of www.jeffreyseglin.com, a blog focused on ethical issues. 

Do you have ethical questions that you need answered? Send them to rightthing@comcast.net. 

Follow him on Twitter: @jseglin 

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Sunday, March 19, 2017

Should I let my child lie about age to get on Facebook?



Is it OK to lie about a child's age so he or she can get onto a popular social media site?

After all, few of the major social media sites ask for any proof of age, so who's going to care if a 12-year-old kid adds a year to his age by typing into the registration form for a site like Facebook and add a year to his life by indicating he was born the year before he actually was born. Boom. Online with his older friends, new friends, strangers posing as friends, and the massive newsfeed that follows.

Some parents make the case for allowing their children to fudge about their real age to gain access because they insist their child friend them or allow themselves to be followed on whatever social media site they sign up for. "I know what he's doing out there," one reader told me. "So I've nothing to worry about."

If a parent can monitor his child's activity on a social media site, does that make it OK to lie about the kid's age to get him on the site in the first place?

I'm sure that somewhere in all of the registration forms and click boxes needed to gain access to a particular site that we're all asked to confirm somehow that our answers are honest and accurate. I'm not a contracts lawyer, but I suspect that lying about your age on a contract to gain access to social media is not a good thing. Still, I've yet to read a case about a 12-year-old kid being hauled off to court because he pretended to be 13.

If parents can monitor their kids and the site isn't going to prosecute if you lie to it about your age, what could possibly be wrong with permitting a kid to sign up for a social media site before he or she meets the minimum age requirement?

How about this explanation offered to me by one of the smartest parents of teenagers I know? "If the first interaction your child has with social media is one of lying, why would you be surprised when a child posts inappropriate material or lies on the site?"

While it might seem innocuous to permit a child to add a few months to his life so he can poke or share or post to his heart's delight, a parent sending this kind of message that it's OK to lie to get what you want makes an impression. If it's OK to lie to get on Facebook, is it also OK to lie to get a better grade? Or to get a pet from an animal shelter? Or to get a fake ID card? Or to torment someone else on a social media site by trolling them and misrepresenting who you really are?

There are many opportunities parents have to nurture shared values with their kids. If honesty is one of those value, then the right thing when asked about lying about age to gain social media access is to say no. Feeling 13 is not the same as being 13. 

Jeffrey L. Seglin, author of The Simple Art of Business Etiquette: How to Rise to the Top by Playing Nice, is a lecturer in public policy and director of the communications program at Harvard's Kennedy School. He is also the administrator of www.jeffreyseglin.com, a blog focused on ethical issues. 

Do you have ethical questions that you need answered? Send them to rightthing@comcast.net. 

Follow him on Twitter: @jseglin 

(c) 2017 JEFFREY L. SEGLIN. DISTRIBUTED BY TRIBUNE CONTENT AGENCY, LLC.

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