tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166579.post3555732699594407031..comments2024-02-19T08:12:53.815-05:00Comments on The Right Thing: THE RIGHT THING: THE LOVE IS GONE, THE CASH REMAINSJeffrey L. Seglinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15648051034425906705noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166579.post-73981113276408373562008-08-27T18:25:00.000-04:002008-08-27T18:25:00.000-04:00Mr. Seglin ~I almost always read your column and a...Mr. Seglin ~<BR/><BR/>I almost always read your column and appreciate your perspective on various ethical issues.<BR/>Although I can understand your point that she should not take her ex-boyfriend's money "to even the score," she is at risk as long as her name is on any joint accounts. If he overdraws, etc. it will go against her credit rating also.<BR/><BR/>The bank was correct in saying either one can close a joint account. To protect her own interests and to be ethical about the money, she could [and I believe should] close the accounts and have cashier's checks or counter drafts [if the bank charges for cashier's checks] made payable to him for the balance, sending them certified mail to his address of record on the account. This would remove her name from the accounts and still allow him to keep his money. He can then open a new account with instant access at any bank he chooses. However, he will no longer be able to negatively affect her credit rating.<BR/><BR/>One of your Many Faithful ReadersAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166579.post-81883604923959659862008-08-26T00:22:00.000-04:002008-08-26T00:22:00.000-04:00Perhaps this doormat of a woman could get in touch...Perhaps this doormat of a woman could get in touch with him and offer-no, demand-that she be allowed to clean his new apartment on a regular basis, and also wash his new woman's underwear.<BR/>Sometimes all this ethical stuff goes too far. She should be getting money from him for all her services over the years. So what if they didn't have an agreement-it is what is right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166579.post-14407487681012334572008-08-24T11:37:00.000-04:002008-08-24T11:37:00.000-04:00Living in a fantasy world can be costly, too. I'd ...Living in a fantasy world can be costly, too. I'd like to be sympathetic, but frankly, women like this make me crazy. She picks a drunk, pays his bills and his child support, opens joint accounts with him even though she does most of the working, and for what? A "love" fantasy? If there was no agreement that he would pay back the money she spent on him (of course there wasn't) then that money was a gift she paid for the privilege of playing house with a bum. If she can figure out how much of the remaining money in the account was deposited by her, then she's entitled to it. After that, what difference does it make if her name is on the account? She had five years to figure out that he was an arrested development case whose mother had apparently taught him that women would come to his rescue. She won't be the last one for him, but let's hope he's the last "rescue romance" for her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com