tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166579.post6514304223236133242..comments2024-02-19T08:12:53.815-05:00Comments on The Right Thing: THE RIGHT THING: A BOY, A MOUNTAIN AND A SIMPLE ACT OF KINDNESSJeffrey L. Seglinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15648051034425906705noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166579.post-76209442844221724792007-12-03T21:54:00.000-05:002007-12-03T21:54:00.000-05:00Dear Jeffrey: I read your comment about your encou...Dear Jeffrey:<BR/> <BR/>I read your comment about your encounter 14 years ago and it reminded me of an incident the other day when I was visiting my college-aged daughter in San Diego. We were approached in a shopping center by a man who asked for some money, saying he was hungry. His eyes brightened and he thanked me when I gave him $5, the smallest bill I had. As my daughter and I walked one way, he walked towards the drug store. I commented with sarcasm that he was probably going to buy a bottle of wine. My daughter chided me. She reminded me of ANOTHER incident, a few years ago, when we were in Portland, visiting my aunt, who lives on the fringes in a less-than-desireable downtown area. Some of her "friends" were hanging around the building one hot afternoon as we left to take my aunt to run an errand. They were asking passersby for money, saying that they wanted to buy ice cream. I gave them some money and as we left my husband had said something sarcastic about how they were probably going straight to the corner liquor store as soon as we left. Sure enough, we watched them walk straight to the liquor store as we drove off. When we returned, there they all were, lined up outside the building...eating ice cream bars and smiling like children at a party. At least my daughter learned to reserve judgment on her fellow man after that day. I need to remember that lesson. <BR/><BR/>CarolynAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166579.post-25448011618762953492007-12-03T21:43:00.000-05:002007-12-03T21:43:00.000-05:00Jeff - As always an interesting column today on et...Jeff - As always an interesting column today on ethics of doing good. I assume you've seen the studies out the last couple of weeks how doing good makes you feel good about yourself which might have prompted your column???? <BR/><BR/>I especially connected with your comment to the homeless man cutting him off in mid-sentence. I love helping people but I refuse to enable their dysfunctional behaviors. So when a homeless person, usually a man, asks for money, I ask, "What's it for?" 99% of the time they say, "For food. Man. I'm hungry." So I say, I don't give handouts, but I'll buy you lunch. There's a [fill in the restaurant]. Let's walk over and I'll buy you lunch." And 99% of the time they decline. So they lied to me. The money isn't for food. It's for drugs or booze. I don't work my butt off 70 hours a week and travel 35 weeks a year to waste it. Caught in a lie they usually go away quietly.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I make it a point to do a 'good deed' every day. Sometimes it's something as simple as holding a door. But with today's PC climate you never know. I'll be 60 next year and, not often, but sometimes a young woman gets offended. So I ask, "May I hold the door for you?" I put the decision is their hands rather than presuming. <BR/><BR/>I discovered a long time ago people don't like to be told what do to. It's much better to give them options so they can decide what to do. For example, cars with the blinkers on. Rather than TELLING the driver to turn it off, I say, "Your blinker is on." The driver always thanks me for the information, rather than getting mad. I don't presume to tell them what to do.<BR/><BR/>Hope this is some food for thought. Now close that laptop and finish your shopping..........<BR/><BR/>Gary Zeune, CPA, Founder <BR/>The Pros & The Cons <BR/>World's only speakers bureau for white-collar criminals <BR/>gzfraud@bigfoot.com <BR/>www.TheProsAndTheCons.com <BR/>Office 614-761-8911 <BR/>Fax 206-202-0880 <BR/>Cell 614-571-8334 <BR/>10356 Wellington Blvd Suite D <BR/>Powell, OH 43065Gary Zeunehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16312469204885988175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166579.post-45466172119721308302007-12-03T15:20:00.000-05:002007-12-03T15:20:00.000-05:00Jeffrey Seglin works for the extremely unethical N...Jeffrey Seglin works for the extremely unethical New York Times, owned by radical leftist Arthur Sulzberger, Jr, and Jeffrey tells others about "ethics"?<BR/><BR/>Where was the "ethics" in hiring, and keeping on Jayson Blair?<BR/><BR/>Where was the "ethics" in giving socialist George Soros a hefty discount on his ant-American hate piece calling General Petrayus "General Betray Us"?<BR/><BR/>Seglin should seek employment elsewhere. Ethics are incompatible with the radical New York Times.JonathanQuickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15870362961333456576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166579.post-71259371374089174932007-12-02T14:17:00.000-05:002007-12-02T14:17:00.000-05:00Good story -- One of the best true stories ever to...Good story -- <BR/>One of the best true stories ever told on the test of our moral obligations is "The Parable of the Sadhu" by Bowen McCoy - related in an HBR classic that takes place in the Himilaya's during the author's group attempt to reach the mountain's peak.<BR/><BR/>I use the HBR article along with a video tape that reconstructs the event -- as a prompting for a discussion of corporate ethical behavior. <BR/><BR/>I recommend it -- no student (or corporate executive) I have ever shown it to has forgotten the powerful message conveyed in the article/video.<BR/><BR/> - Jan BohrenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166579.post-62247665281080204842007-12-02T13:54:00.000-05:002007-12-02T13:54:00.000-05:00Lovely story - haven't you read about Dumbo and th...Lovely story - haven't you read about Dumbo and the crow's magic feather that helped him fly? I'm sure that young woman had.<BR/> Of course people should help each other when they're able. It's the grease on the wheels of civilization. But please, Jeff, it doesn't BEG THE QUESTION! It invites, or it leads to, or it suggests the question. "Begging the question" is a form of faulty logic, and I won't go into its Latin roots unless you ask (you don't have to beg.)<BR/> Thank you, I'm done now.<BR/> Nice topic.<BR/><BR/>Maggie LAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com