Sunday, February 01, 2009


You're a reference for a friend who is applying for a job. He's a serious enough candidate that you get a call from the prospective employer. In the course of the conversation, however, the discussion turns from your friend's qualifications for the job to your own.

Is it OK to pursue this line of conversation, even if you suspect that you might be offered the job rather than your friend?

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Anonymous said...

Friends don't let friends drive drunk. Friends don't steer a conversation about a friend's references to their own qualifications for the job. And don't say this "friend" didn't steer the conversation. The qualifications being discussed were clearly those of the job applicant. Just how did this supposed "friend" insert his or her qualifications into the conversation? Accidentally on purpose? Feeling jealous? Wanting to brag? Looking at 30 pieces of silver?

Gossip_girl said...

It is possible the prospective employer wants to know if you are qualified enough to judge your friend's qualifications. If you get asked about the job, you simply say "no, thank you. I'm satisfied with my current employment"