A reader we're calling, Gil, and his neighbor, Roger,
became friendly shortly after Gil and his family bought their house about a
decade ago. Since Roger had lived on the property abutting Gil's backyard for
more than 30 years, he was quick to share wisdom about the neighborhood and
most anything else to which Gil was willing to listen.
Roger was older and made clear to Gil that the two of
them did not share political views. Occasionally, Roger was prone to make an
inappropriate remark about a particular group of people and Gil was in the
habit of regularly calling Roger on why what he said was thoughtless or worse.
Nevertheless, the two neighbors got along well and, as
Gil tells it, enjoyed the occasional company of one another.
Shortly after Gil purchased his house, he began to stack
fallen twigs and leaves behind a row of trees in the back of his yard. He
stopped once Roger pointed out that Gil was "technically" dumping
stuff on his property line, which he proceeded to walk off as a way of pointing
out to Gil what was Roger's and what wasn't.
Gil was pretty certain that the plot map indicated his
twigs and leaves were stacked on his property, but he wanted to avoid an
argument, so he began placing them in a heap next to the shed in his side yard
- well out of view of Roger's house.
This past winter hit Gil's and Roger's neighborhood hard.
Week-long, sub-zero temperatures followed by snowstorms accompanied by 60-plus
mile-an-hour winds wreaked havoc. Pipes froze, though luckily nothing burst in
Gil's or Roger's houses.
They weren't so lucky when it came to the two 50-foot
trees that fell between Gil's and Roger's house. The trees had tipped over,
broken, and the root ball had lifted out of the ground. They would need to be
removed by a tree service so more damage wasn't done to other trees during a
subsequent storm.
Since the trees were right behind where Gil had placed
those twigs and leaves years earlier, he asked Roger if he planned to call a
tree service to have the felled trees removed.
"I'd be glad to, but they're on your property,"
Roger responded. Gil then says he walked off the property line to show Gil
where it was, although this time it was a few feet back from where Roger had
walked off the line years earlier.
Now, Gil wants to know if he should remind Roger that he
had claimed that property as his own and get him to pay for the tree removal,
even though Gil always believed the property was his? Or should he be a good
neighbor, have the trees removed, and eat the cost?
Gil could spend the money on a surveyor to settle who
owns what, but that's likely wasted money since his plot plan already points to
the land as his. The right thing to do is for Gil to pay to have the trees
removed because they are on his property. He should then feel free to dump his
twigs and leaves where he originally wanted.
Jeffrey L. Seglin, author of The Simple Art of Business Etiquette: How to Rise to the Top by Playing Nice, is a senior lecturer in public policy and director of the communications program at Harvard's Kennedy School. He is also the administrator of www.jeffreyseglin.com, a blog focused on ethical issues.
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1 comment:
This is why they say fences make good neighbors.
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