After spending a couple of hours weeding and sprucing up
her own yard this summer, A.L. looked over at her neighbor's house, the
two-family building next door, and noticed the overgrown shrubs, weeds growing
just a few feet from the foundation, and grass that needed a good trim.
The houses in A.L.'s neighborhood are close together, and
her yard touches on the neighbor's yard. Aside from regularly mowing the entire
lawn between their houses -- a portion of which belongs to the neighbor -- A.L.
is uncertain how to improve the rest of the neighbor's yard, which goes
untended.
The owner of the house next door does not live there and
rents out each of the apartments. Several roommates live in each unit. These
neighbors are nice, quiet, respectful people, A.L. says. She hasn't seen the
owner of the house for months.
It would probably take A.L. an extra hour or so to mow
the rest of the neighbor's lawn, do some weeding and trim the unruly hedges.
Other than mowing between their houses, however, the only other things she's
ever done are to prune an overgrown rose bush that caught the garments of
anyone walking on the side lawn, and remove a dead azalea bush.
A.L. knows the neighbor's yard would look a lot better --
as would the neighborhood -- if she just want ahead and spruced up the property
herself.
A.L. said that a neighbor down the street was once fined
$50 by the city for letting the weeds in his yard grow so high that they
partially blocked the public sidewalk. Her next-door neighbor's overgrown
plants, however, are confined to the yard. (When the neighbor who was fined
took ill, A.L. cut back his weeds so he wouldn't be fined again.)
"Is it my responsibility to look after (my
neighbor's) yard?" A.L. asks. "Would it be wrong if I just walked
over there and spent some time cleaning up the place?"
It's obviously not A.L.'s responsibility to maintain her
neighbor's yard. And while it might seem neighborly to simply take care of the
mess, this would be inappropriate. It is her neighbor's responsibility to
decide how she wants the yard maintained...or not maintained. If A.L.'s
attitude is that her neighbor would never notice any work she did, this is not
justification for tending to her neighbor's property.
The right thing, if A.L. really believes the neighbor's
lawn maintenance issue should be addressed, is to talk to the owner of the
house. She can choose how to broach the subject, perhaps letting the owner know
that since she last visited, the weeds, shrubs and lawn have gotten out of
control. A.L. could then offer to mow the lawn and do some basic weeding. She
should be sure to clear all such work with the owner before doing anything.
However, if the homeowner takes A.L. up on her offer, she
might then expect A.L. to take permanent responsibility for maintaining the
yard at her rental house. This already seems to be the case with the side yard
they share. Such an arrangement may be fine with A.L., but the right thing to
do is talk with her neighbor before taking on the task.
Jeffrey L. Seglin, author of The Right Thing: Conscience, Profit and Personal Responsibility in Today's Business and The Good, the Bad, and Your Business: Choosing Right When Ethical Dilemmas Pull You Apart, is a lecturer in public policy and director of the communications programat Harvard's Kennedy School.
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1 comment:
It's neighborly to want to help out like this but I have found the worst thing you can do is "do a favor for your neighbor", especially with such a set of circumstances as in this example. The best I can offer is somehow to offer personally to help the neighbor. I suspect this will generate hard feelings, since if the neighbor was worthwhile to help, she would have done the job herself.
Charlie Seng
Lancaster, SC
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